The first step is awareness. We must be aware of these things. The first step is also the awareness of responsibility.
When we are aware, we choose the event, our response and the outcome. If we cannot choose the event, like an accident or death, we can still choose our response and therefore the outcome.
Many times, we lose ourselves in an event and forget that the event is not the outcome; our response to the event is the outcome.
Whether the event is chosen or not, your response is your response-ability. No one else carries the responsibility. You can't control the traffic jam, the accidents or other things, but you can control how you react to them. There are happy people in traffic jams, singing loudly in their cars and dancing in their seats. There are people who dance in the rain.