You do create your own reality. No one else does. And, you create your own reality even if you do not understand that you do so. For that reason, you often create by default. When you are consciously aware of your own thoughts, and you are deliberately offering them, then you are the deliberate creator of your own reality. Your desires and beliefs are just thoughts: “Ask and it is given.” You ask through your attention, through your wanting, through your desire - that is the asking (whether you desire it to happen, or you desire it not to happen , you are asking...). You do not have to use your words. You just have to feel it in your being: I desire this. I adore this. I appreciate this, and so on. That desire is the beginning of all attraction.