Are you letting you join the newly created, newly expanded version of You? And the answer to that all-important question lies in the way that you feel. The better you feel, the more you are allowing that Connection; and the worse you feel, the more you are disallowing, or resisting, that Connection.
When you feel love or joy - or any positive emotion - you are literally being the expanded version that life has caused you to become. When you feel fear, anger, or despair - or any negative emotion - you are not, in this moment, by virtue of whatever it is that you are giving your attention to, allowing yourself to be that new expanded version ... you are not letting yourself keep up with who you have become.