There is one time when it's valuable – and even fun -- to be argumentative.
If I notice myself thinking a negative type thought that doesn't serve me well, I can take issue with it in my mind and argue for the opposite of that thought.
"That neighbor is crabby. I don't even like to see him out walking his dog."
Wait a minute. I've heard others call him grouchy, but I've never actually talked to him much. Maybe he's fairly nice. At least he seems to treat his pet nicely, and I saw him help his grandchild learn to ride a bike. It feels good to think of sharing this neighborhood with nice people.
"My back hurts quite a lot. I guess that's part of getting older."
Hold the phone. I know plenty of older people who have no backaches whatsoever. This is not inevitable. I'm thankful that my back feels OK more often than it hurts. I've been blowing this out of proportion. My back is in fairly good shape, and I think it could stay that way indefinitely.
"If my mother had been more sensitive and understanding, I would have grown up into a more secure adult."
I actually know plenty of people who grew up with enlightened parents, and those people seem to have "issues" just like everyone else. My mother did the best she could with what she knew, and I'm thankful for her as my avenue into physical life.
As I consistently argue down my negative mental chatter, refusing to let gloom or criticism have the final word, I'll find myself feeling lighter and free.
Instead of arguing FOR my limitations, I'm putting them in their place – nowheresville.
And I won't even come by for a visit.
This is from Karen's future e-book, Soulsongs Volume 5: Exploring the Law of Attraction.